But before I deal with this first one, I need to give it some context.
Earlier in the book when I referred to the "Adam and Steve" comment, I mentioned another often-said phrase that I find equally offensive:
"Love the sinner, hate the sin"
Truth be told, I actually think that this is the most offensive one...in fact, it's the deadliest...because it sounds so nice and fair and progressive and "Christian"...but at the heart of it is a cynical, condescending and smugly self-righteous sentiment that literally sends shivers up my spine.
It's the poisoned apple of homophobic slurs
More than anything else, it's a lie.
I've seen from my own experience that, typically, the "Christians" who say "Love the sinner, hate the sin" in an attempt to sound benevolent, yet uncompromisingly moral, not only hate the "sin" as they judge it, they actually loathe the "sinner"...and making this smarmy, phony statement is an unctuous way for them to camouflage their true feelings about it.
Their attempt at reconciling the Christ-delivered mandate to love everyone unconditionally with their actual contempt for homosexuals exhibits the very kind of hypocrisy that Jesus continually attacked with a vengeance.
The absurdity of "Love the sinner, hate the sin" reminds me of the scores and scores of letters I've received from those fluent in Christian-ese who begin their pompous missives with the statement "It's not my place to judge you", and then set out to write 3 to 5 pages of nothing but judgment on me!
It's as if saying "It's not my place to judge you" is the disclaimer that gives them carte-blanche to tear into you and say anything they want to say...like when someone begins a conversation by saying, "Now, I'm just saying this in love..."...
You know full well, if you've ever been on the receiving end of that opening line, that the words you hear spoken after that are generally anything but loving!
Here's a thought...if it's not your place to judge, then don't even write the letter!
And if you're saying something in love, you don't even have to qualify that it's said in love...love bears fruit of itself! Margaret Thatcher said, "Being powerful is like being a lady. If you have to tell people you are, you aren't"...in the same way, if you have to tell someone that love is your motivation for doing or saying something, it's the clearest indication that nothing could be further from the truth.
Some of those same people have written in those same letters, "Your personal life is between you and God", to which I also say...EXACTLY! Then why not just let God and me deal with it?
Anyway, this brings me to the question I get asked all the time:
Question #7: Is homosexuality a sin?
Answer #7: No way to answer that because it's not a valid question.
Sexual orientation is not what you do, it's who you are!
To be continued...