You can't operate in kindness to others until you learn to be kind to yourself...and you can't be kind to yourself until you fully accept the Loving-kindness and Tender-mercies of God toward you...here is the outline from Sunday's teaching on the Spiritual Fruit of KindnessB - less yourself with your own words
E - xamine honestly your feelings of inferiority or inadequacy
K - now the importance of giving yourself a break
I - nitiate a truce with your internal critic
N - ever let guilt be your motivation for anything
D - are to keep believing in your dreams, even if no one else does
T - ake yourself less seriously
O - wn your successes
Y - ank up hurtful words from the soil of your heart before they take root
O - perate at all times according to the 2nd Great Commandment
U - nderstand that He will always be strong when you are weak
